"We're Not at Charm School Learning How to Be a Gentleman, We're Racing"
Version: United States
Season: The Amazing Race 4
Episode No.: 9/13 (044)
First Broadcast: July 24, 2003
Viewership (in millions): 8.60[1]
Ratings/Share (18-49) 3.3/12[1]
Episode Chronology
Previous: "The Princess Reminded Me of My Grandmother. She Was Very Old but Still Very, Very with It"
Next: "That's Me. That's My Face. Just Hit My Face. Hit My Face!"

We're Not at Charm School Learning How to Be a Gentleman, We're Racing is the ninth episode of The Amazing Race 4.


Exhaustion and infighting contribute to one team becoming lost in Malaysia, and the two last-placed teams dash to the finish just seconds apart to avoid being eliminated.[2]


Route Markers

The order of departure from the Manukan Island are as follows:

  1. Jon & Al (12:05 am)
  2. Reichen & Chip (12:05 am)
  3. Millie & Chuck (2:19 am)
  4. David & Jeff (2:50 am)
  5. Kelly & Jon (3:36 am)

Teams must travel back to Kota Kinabalu. Once there, teams must then travel to the Poring Hot Springs in Ranau and cross a series of tree bridges to find their next clue.

Teams must take a marked car and drive themselves to Sandakan and find the Trushidup Palm Oil Plantation to look for their next clue.

The Fast Forward instructions were given to them after receiving their clue at Poring Hot Springs.

Teams must drive themselves to the Sepilok Orangutan Sanctuary and feed the orangutans. Once they've fed the orangutans four pieces of fruit, they can claim the Fast Forward. Reichen & Chip won the Fast Forward.

Choice A: Chop
Teams will simply use local tools to knock down palm nuts with an envelope attached. For every one envelope with a clue inside, there are three that are empty.

Only Kelly & Jon chose this task.

Choice B: Haul
Teams would have to haul 25 palm nut bunches into a truck. Once the truck is full, it will drive away revealing their next clue.

David & Jeff, Jon & Al, and Millie & Chuck chose this task.

Teams must drive themselves to Gomantong Caves and find their next clue.

The team member assigned to perform this Roadblock would have to climb up a rickety ladder 50 feet inside of the cave. At the top, they would have to balance atop a shaky wooden platform to retrieve their next clue from inside of a basket, and could then climb back down.

The Roadblock performers per team are underlined:

Teams must drive themselves to Sepilok Nature Resort to check in.

For coming in first, Reichen & Chip won a festive Latin American vacation courtesy of American Airlines.


     First Place •      Eliminated     Last placer on a Non-Elimination Leg     Season winner •      Season 2nd place •      Season 3rd place • Used the Fast Forward
S4 ReichenChip
 1st place 
Reichen & Chip
S4 JonAl
 2nd place 
Jon & Al
Best Friends/Clowns
S4 DavidJeff
 3rd place 
David & Jeff
Best Friends
S4 KellyJon
 4th place 
Kelly & Jon
S4 MillieChuck
 5th place 
Millie & Chuck
Dating 12 Years/Virgins